presented by Chau Ly wrath Pauline Nguyen from ‘Growing up Asian in Australia ’ wrath (v.) - to hit with a stick wrath (adj.) - very skinny (adj.) - religious wrath (n.) wrath - a suburb in NSW which has the largest Vietnamese community in Australia (n.) - intense anger wrath • Pauline struggles during her childhood to live up to her father’s expectations: work 7 days/week at a restaurant before and after school do household chores go to extra classes GET GOOD GRADES • She always fears her father’s harsh punishment when she does not complete her tasks. Not able to cope with the oppression in the house, she finally decides to run away to live on her own. • After leaving, her brothers suffer even more. They have to take all the tasks which she used to be responsible for when she is still at home. “You are like cars with no direction…and I am your steering wheel, leading you to the right direction.” We do not choose the family we are born into. ∴ family = first experience of belonging ∴ family relationship = stronger than anything else ∴ family = great influence on our identities “…my father wanted desperately to raise four high achievers, believing that the sacrifices he and my mother had made were far too great for us not to be. We aimed high because we had no choice.” Living up to others’ expectations may force us to play out roles (eg. being “the good child”). You may lose your identity to belong to a group. “Remember where you came from and above all else, never forget the true value of your freedom.” We desire to appear as “a perfect child” in front of our parents. We do not want our parents to dictate our lives. ∴paradox of belonging For most of us, families are the major influence on the formation of our identities. There are costs to the individual in belonging to a group. Sometimes, we want to belong, but we also like the idea of freedom and individuality. TheCourageofSoldiers VS. FiveWaysToDisappointYour VietnameseMother • Diana gets kicked out because she has • Pauline runs • They both a boyfriend. away from her live up to father’s severity. • Diana is more their confident with her parents’ life. • Pauline is more expectations obedient. . • She has the guts to • They are born in do whatever she Australia but likes even though • She reluctantly both are strongly some of them may follows her father’s affected by go against her dictation until she Vietnamese mother’s wills. moves out. culture.