Emotional Intelligence (EQ) What it is and How Can I Strengthen this Competency? County Leadership Conference March 1, 2013 Angela Flickinger Matt Hanson Tedi Winnett Phineas Gage A TRAGIC ACCIDENT UNCOVERS THE SECRETS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ) Trajectory of the forty-three inch tamping iron that traveled through the head of railroad foreman Phineas Gage on September 13, 1848. The iron removed the entire front portion of his brain. Definition of Emotions Emotions are…. A physiological experience which manifests itself in neuro-muscular, respiratory, cardiovascular, and hormonal changes including modifications in thought and behavior. EQ is… Your ability to RECOGNIZE and UNDERSTAND emotions, and your skill at using this awareness to MANAGE yourself and your relationships with others. Why is EQ it Important Has the capacity to change your relationships at work and home Associated with better results in leadership, sales, academics, marriage, friendships and health Emotional Intelligence (EQ) What it is – the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in our selves and in our relationships •“Being nice” •Letting feelings hang out” 4 Core Emotional Intelligence Skills Identifying Emotions Whatcha feelin’? Identifying Emotions Identify how do you feel Identify how do others feel Sense emotions in music Sense emotions in art Detect real and fake emotions- accuracy Understanding Emotions Recognizing trigger events Know emotions can be complex Emotions can transition from one to another A rich emotional vocabulary can help with identifying emotions Core Beliefs in the Workplace A good way to get to know your colleagues • What makes them tick? • Identify & prioritize core values The role values play in our work environments The Science of EQ – Our Brain Emotional Hijacking Self Talk Reviewing your EQ Assessment Self Awareness: Strategies Quit treating your feelings as good or bad Lean into your discomfort Watch yourself like a hawk Feel your emotions physically Self Management: Strategies Take control of self talk Clean up your sleep hygiene Put a mental recharge into your schedule Learn a valuable lesson from Everyone you encounter Social Awareness: Strategies Greet people by name Develop a back pocket question Go people watching Don’t take notes at a meeting Relationship Management: Strategies When you care, show it Be open and be curious Avoid giving mixed signals Only get MAD on purpose 2012 Top EQ Moments http://www.talentsmart.com/articles/TopTen-Emotional-Intelligence-Moments-of2012-1411911222-p-1.html 2013 Discovering Emotional Intelligence workshops Tentative Dates May 30 – location Green Bay/Appleton area. August 22 – location around Minocqua Nov 15 – Lowell Hall, Madison Thank You!