Finding the Real Story,,,, Listening with a Counselor’s Ear

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Finding the Real Story….
Listening with a Counselor’s Ear
Do You Communicate Effectively?
Communication Involves
Three Components
• Verbal Messages – the words we choose
• Paraverbal Messages – how we say the words
• Nonverbal Messages – our body language
How You Communicate
Words
7%
Tone 38%
38%
Nonverbal
55%
Verbal Messages
• Are brief, succinct, and organized
• Are free of jargon
• Do not create resistance in the listener
Paraverbal Messages
• Account for about 38% of what is perceived
and understood by others.
• Includes the tone, pitch, and pacing of our
voice.
Nonverbal Messages
• Account for about 55% of what is perceived
and understood by others.
• Are conveyed through our facial expressions
as well as our postures and gestures.
JARGON
In Conversation
• Use simple language
• Avoid acronyms
• Avoid slang
• If you have to repeat it several times, maybe it
is the way you are conveying it to them.
Listening
• Requires concentration
and energy
• Involves a psychological
connection with the
speaker
• Includes a desire and
willingness to try and
see things from
another’s perspective
• Requires that we
suspend judgment and
evaluation
Key Listening Skills
• Nonverbal:
– Giving full physical attention to the speaker
– Being aware of the speaker’s nonverbal messages
• Verbal:
– Paying attention to the words and feelings that are
being expressed
– Using reflective listening tools such as
paraphrasing, reflecting, summarizing, and
questioning to increase understanding of the
message and help the speaker tell his/her story
Active Listening
• Leaning gently towards the speaker
• Facing the other person squarely
• Maintaining an open posture with arms and
legs uncrossed
• Maintaining an appropriate distance
• Moving our bodies in response to the speaker,
i.e., appropriate head nodding, facial
expressions
How are you communicating vs. your
students?
“A student does not care
what you know, unless
they know that you
care.”
- Dr. Crystal Kuykendall-

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