Habit 4 Think Win-Win Freshman Advisory March, 2013 *** Material is created from 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Let’s See What Win-Win is Not….. Win-Lose – The Totem Pole This is when people only want to win and don’t care if others lose. You win, someone else loses. Lose-Win – The Doormat This is when people allow others to win even when it means they lose. You lose, someone else wins. Lose-Lose – The Downward Spiral This is when people believe that if they go down, then others must go down with them. You both lose. What Win-Win is…… Win-Win – The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet The belief that everyone can win; there is more than enough to go around for everyone It’s not you or me – it’s both of us Examples: Your best friend just got accepted to the college you wanted to go to. You didn’t make it. Although you feel terrible, you are genuinely happy for your friend. You want to go out for dinner. Your friend wants to see a movie. You jointly decide to rent a movie and pick up food to eat at home. Triple Up Place yourself or have your teacher place you in trios. You will discuss the four ways of looking at situations with your trio. This is for educational purposes. Please participate and only share stories appropriate for school and personal comfort level. Let’s have a little fun (you could always make up a situation too). Win - Lose Discuss an experience where you practiced or witnessed a win-lose situation or where someone acted in a winlose way towards you. How did you feel? How might have this person behaved differently? Lose-Win Discuss an experience where you, someone you know (leaving out names) or a made up situation had a losewin mentality. How did/do you feel about it? Would you or should they have done something differently? What advice would you give the people in the situation? Lose-Lose Discuss some lose-lose examples from history or current news events. What might one side have done differently? Is there ever a time when lose-lose might be appropriate? Win-Win Each person in your trio should do the following: Share your definition of Win-Win. Use examples from your own life. Complete the following sentences: It is hardest for me to think win-win when: It is easiest for me to think win-win when: When I practice win-win thinking, I enjoy the following benefits: Can you do more WinWin thinking? Sure…… It just takes some work. Things you can do today: If you play sports, show sportsmanship. Compliment someone from the opposing team after the match or game, even if you lose. Do you have an important test coming up soon? If so, form a study group and share your best ideas with each other. You’ll all do better. The next time someone close to you succeeds, be genuinely happy for them instead of feeling threatened. Make the Commitment To practice Win-Win thinking at least once this week. Think about how it makes you feel. Think about how it makes others feel. To talk to adults in your life about their Win-Win experiences.