7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Habit 1- Be Proactive Just Push Pause • When ever we are faced with a situation that has a tendency to upset us, it is important to stop and think (Push Pause) • If we are reactive- we tend to blow up and make things worse 4 Power Tools • Humans, by virtue of having a well developed brain, are able to think before they act • Animals (and young children) rely mainly in instinct to control their behavior • The Power Tools are the Brain’s tools to help us through difficult situations Self-Awareness • I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions – I can think about what I am doing and what I should be doing Self-awareness • You as a Human – I have been mean to mom because she bugs me about my grades. My grades are bad because I have been staying up late talking to friends. I have been talking to friends because I want to have a connection with people. • As an Animal – I am angry because my mom is aggressive. I sleep because I am tired. I talk to people because they protect me or … Imagination • I can envision new possibilities – We can actually look in to the future and imagine what can happen. – Imagination helps us create goals Imagination • You as a human – What happens when I react poorly to something. I can imagine myself in the office, grounded, in jail, unemployed – What happens when I react appropriately. I can imagine myself graduating, getting married, having a great job with an awesome car, etc • You as an animal – Only instinct- you can’t see what will happen next only what you want NOW!!! Conscience • I can listen to my inner voice and know right from wrong – Your inner voice that tells you right from wrong – This is developed over time Conscience • You as a Human – You know its wrong to hit, kick, steal, do drugs, not do your school work. – You know its right to help, be respectful, be kind, he honest, do your school work • You as an animal – It doesn’t matter- the only thing that is right is what I need right NOW!!! Willpower • We have the power to choose – We don’t have to react – We can chose to do right and wrong Willpower • We as humans – can chose to act or not act – We can chose to be mad, sad, happy, sleep when we should be studying, talk when we should be listening, be patient and wait for the big reward instead of going for the little reward • We as animals – Work only on instinct and cannot wait. We go for what is right NOW!!!