Chapter 11 Lessons 1: Getting Along with Others Lesson 2: Communicating Effectively Farwah Haq Alesia Apana Brittany Lane Maya George Tania Paracha The target audience is 9th grade students The setting is a classroom 1. Healthy relationships -Types of healthy relationships -Components of a healthy relationship 2. Communication -Speaking -Listening - Non-verbal Communication Bond or connection between people Affects your physical, mental, & social health Different types Family relationships Friendships Community relationships Provide the strongest bonds Last a lifetime Usually with people you turn to when sick or injured Parents/guardians provide love & care, teach values, & give guidance Relationships based on caring, toleration, & trust Vary in importance based on how challenging & complicated they are Lots of work to maintain Usually with people you share interests or hobbies with Community leaders & businesses provide services to meet the citizens’ needs Can be formed in community classes, book clubs, & recreational activities Choose people who: Support you Encourage your best qualities Healthy relationships satisfy your basic human needs of safety, security, value, & recognition A part that you play in a relationship Examples: Brother Daughter Student Band Director Employee Roles switch suddenly or change gradually depending on needs and some situations Can have more than one role at a time Roles can be confusing in a relationship Increase self-esteem Improve mental and emotional health Help you have fuller lives Mutual Respect Trust Honesty Support Cooperation Fairness/Equality Separate Identities Good Communication Compromise A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior. - Speaking - Listening - Non-verbal Communication Say CLEARLY what you mean Do not assume anyone else can read your mind Use of “I” messages o A statement in which a person tells how her or she feels using the pronoun “I” o Helps to avoid blaming or namecalling. Changes in your tone and voice and its pitch and loudness play an important role o Kind words in a sarcastic tone o Speaking too loudly may make others see you as arrogant and bossy o Speaking too softly may make others think you are not too sure of what you are saying Most often overlooked Hearing is not the same as listening Skilled Listeners use active listening skills Active listening skills o Reflective listening: rephrase what the other person has said o Clarifying: ask questions to gain a better understanding o Encouraging: give signals to show interest o Empathizing: feeling the other’s feelings as you listen Sending messages through gestures, behaviors, and facial expressions Subtle Often take place subconsciously Helps to make sure you are sending the messages you intend. It is important that your body language and intended message match Examples of GOOD and BAD body language Unrealistic Expectations The need to Project a Superior Image Prejudice Your intended message is not received as expected. Not being prepared for reality. A person may feel attacked Usually occurs during puberty Makes individuals hard to reach Impedes progress A prejudice is an unfair opinion or judgment about a person or a group of people Free communication is difficult to attain Neither side is heard Clouds judgment Accept the situation for what it is You are not always going to be able to solve every problem Encourage both parties to let down their guards Ex. Through peer mediation Try to set realistic expectations This will prevent both parties form getting frustrated Educate people in order to get rid of existing prejudice Review •Types of Relationships –Family Relationships –Friendships –Community Relationships •Role •Traits of a Healthy Relationship Trust Support Honesty Cooperation Compromise Separate Identities Fairness/Equality Mutual Respect Good Communication Review Communication Speaking Listening Nonverbal Communication Communication Barriers Unrealistic Expectations Need to project a superior image Prejudice Proper communication leads to sustaining healthy relationships You just found out that your younger brother/sister just read your diary. What would you do to react? Your parents found some drugs in your bag, they’re not your drugs, but your parents are really furious at you. What do you do? Your best friend is going to cheat on her next exam. She/He asks if they can cheat off of you. You know it’s wrong, how do you explain it to them?